tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post1762068920161333002..comments2024-03-21T18:26:23.834-07:00Comments on In Bed With Married Women: Okay, ONE more thing about vaginas. Then I'm done. Possibly.Jill Hamiltonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14989469118118455602noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-83945156008648641642019-06-27T17:12:43.109-07:002019-06-27T17:12:43.109-07:00Susan for me it's context too. Like calling s...Susan for me it's context too. Like calling someone a pussy or a cunt (while completely unfeminist etc) seems less embarrassing that using them to refer to a part. i really am such a fucking prude.<br /><br />and kelly I feel like finding an OM person might be like, the golden ticket. and yeah they do say pussy there. and sell shirts that say "powered by pussy," which I did not buy.<br /><br />I could be down with fica (fica or feeeca?) I briefly considered calling it/her Ethel Merman as well. But that would be a bad idea, I now realize. Jill Hamiltonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14989469118118455602noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-27252601011596077842019-06-27T13:01:02.541-07:002019-06-27T13:01:02.541-07:00Hello there, Jill!
I enjoyed this post [too]. E...Hello there, Jill! <br /><br />I enjoyed this post [too]. Especially because recently while online dating, I met a man who practices OM ... outside of the organization...<br /><br />Anyway, while chatting, he used the word "pussy," which I find incredibly vulgar.<br /><br />I spoke to a couple of girlfriends about this and they feel the same [even one in Italy, an Italian! felt that way about our English word].<br /><br />Then the older-than-me American girlfriend looked up vagina or pussy in the Urban Dictionary.<br /><br />What a shocker!<br /><br />Do you know that about half of the slang words about girly bits are just references for what they can do to or for men? That does not seem right.<br /><br />But also, we agreed that there are not that many enticing words about our bodies... I mean, boobs are cute, no? round... not like tits that seems like teets which makes me think of multiples and triangles... ie. not voluptuous or feminine, despite my love of triangles.. but I digress.<br /><br />However, I live in Italy and one slang word they use for vagina is Fica. The male version Fico means fig. And the words are often confused by foreigners... however, a fig is often symbolic of lady parts...<br /><br />and I told Mr. OM that I do not want him to ever use 'pussy' when he is around me [although he explained that in the program, they TELL the men and the women to use that word and nothing else really... to own it, as it were, and I accepted that he meant no offense, but still wanted him to refrain around me]. For me, the P word is as bad as the N word and I have no desire to hear either ever again, from anyone.<br /><br />I told Mr. OM that it is far more sexy to have one's private sexy parts referred to as a lush, ripe, delicious, colorful fruit than a cat whose personality is often suspect.<br /><br />Anyway, it seems that women of my generation and maybe even ten years younger [I am 54] do find 'pussy' to be vulgar and unpleasant to hear, while vagina is simply too sterile.<br /><br />I vote for FICA. <br /><br />Happy writing,<br /><br />Kelly<br /><br /><br /><br />~ Kelly Borsheim, sculptor, painter, writer<br />http://BorsheimArts.com<br />http://artbyborsheim.blogspot.com<br />Thank you for supporting and getting updates at:<br />https://www.patreon.com/KellyBorsheimKelly Borsheim Artisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07069782765023276614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-80219073236062906802012-08-10T22:07:29.913-07:002012-08-10T22:07:29.913-07:00I am 35 and have been sexually activity since I wa...I am 35 and have been sexually activity since I was 22, was married for 4 years and done plenty of screwing around before and since the divorce but it's only been in the last two years that I've encountered my first partner who didn't make me feel like a circus side show because of my particular "flooding" issue. In fact, first one who made me think of it as something really fucking awesome and not an "issue". (sadly, he married someone else recently but it was a very freeing experience, nonetheless.) I consider myself a pretty enlightened modern woman and yet I can still totally sympathize with Agnes. I spent years not being able to entirely let go in sexual situations because I was worried I'd flood the whole affair. My ex-husband used to stop mid-shag to grab a towel and "tidy up a bit" because he was off-put by my "ridiculous wetness". <br /><br />Poor Agnes. I feel her pain. So thankful that my horniness overpowered the shame put forth by earlier partners.Kristynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-52958300098888968532012-05-16T09:40:31.131-07:002012-05-16T09:40:31.131-07:00Eric, I know, esp. because she seemed particularly...Eric, I know, esp. because she seemed particularly responsive. She didn't just miss out on a regular ol' sex life, but possibly a really really good one.<br />betty, the people of tennessee will be dealing with you later. <br />dicky, i agree. seems like at least it was a relief for her to finally spill it.<br />Sandra, fo' shizzle. <br />Leila, so different now. even my gen. has a bunch of residual prudery that newer gens don't have.<br />Mandy, making people cry is probably not good business-wise. might need to rethink my plan here.<br />dirty,that was my best and at the same time weirdest compliment of the day.<br />Leah, would be curious what you took from it. the book is sort of the show, i think, but also kind meta, like about the show at the same time.<br />Maya, yes and also yes.in bed with married womenhttp://inbedwithmarriedwomen.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-32682471963106083152012-05-16T05:02:15.792-07:002012-05-16T05:02:15.792-07:00What Mandy_Fish said :(What Mandy_Fish said :(Mayahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11423651173451856258noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-76282921310718137412012-05-16T05:01:46.965-07:002012-05-16T05:01:46.965-07:00What Mandy_Fish said :(What Mandy_Fish said :(Mayahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11423651173451856258noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-79598991183365996792012-05-16T04:26:46.082-07:002012-05-16T04:26:46.082-07:00It kind of explains the sexual ignorance of the ti...It kind of explains the sexual ignorance of the times, doesn't it?<br /><br />You're readers should know however, that the Vagina Monologues isn't ALL doom and gloom. I've seen the stage show and yes, it made me cry in places ...... but then my face HURT with laughing.Leahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15018387289740848218noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-57024871569798167552012-05-15T16:24:26.076-07:002012-05-15T16:24:26.076-07:00So sad.
But it makes me very glad I live now and ...So sad.<br /><br />But it makes me very glad I live now and not then. As you say knowledge is indeed power.dirtycowgirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04193492692357362402noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-27100578844380974002012-05-15T13:25:25.018-07:002012-05-15T13:25:25.018-07:00This makes me want to cry.This makes me want to cry.Mandy_Fishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05561598721266208665noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-38173932576907020442012-05-15T13:04:45.246-07:002012-05-15T13:04:45.246-07:00That's really sad, especially since understand...That's really sad, especially since understanding your libidonous drives is integral to developing self-identity. Usually, a lot of women wait away 20 years of their life through an unsatisfying marriage before they break free and realize their sexual peak. Thanks to this blog and a very open-minded generation, I pretty much know how to please myself, what I want from men, and how I can please them. IBWMW should've been around when she was going out with that ass shat.Leilahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04490635107983302531noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-39113117447826493892012-05-15T12:39:41.547-07:002012-05-15T12:39:41.547-07:00Oh god ...the wasted years ...Oh god ...the wasted years ...Sandra Davieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11788472031698175632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-50194104196770959722012-05-15T12:39:23.459-07:002012-05-15T12:39:23.459-07:00That's a really sad story. To not have any sex...That's a really sad story. To not have any sexual experiences through your whole life because of one early event is a terrible loss. She's very brave to have told her story.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-8062410668733038162012-05-15T12:39:15.488-07:002012-05-15T12:39:15.488-07:00Andy Leftkov was an ignorant asshat, but it was a ...Andy Leftkov was an ignorant asshat, but it was a misogynistic cultural trope wherein women are "dirty" that made normal lubrication so humiliating to both of them. I am glad that girls now learn their "down-theres" are NORMAL with NORMAL reactions. Well, they are learning that everywhere but in Tennessee.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-36398779507591323062012-05-15T12:22:33.449-07:002012-05-15T12:22:33.449-07:00Ok, I'm a guy and that is just sad. I mean, sh...Ok, I'm a guy and that is just sad. I mean, she denied herself so much when she decided to do that. I really feel bad for her and all she missed out on.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15084816466096546209noreply@blogger.com