tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post8959041407927110135..comments2024-03-21T18:26:23.834-07:00Comments on In Bed With Married Women: Dopamine, The Cruel Bitch MistressJill Hamiltonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14989469118118455602noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-49766139650072622522015-08-14T00:41:18.708-07:002015-08-14T00:41:18.708-07:00@IBWMW: Thanks for the link to the S@D post. Wonde...@IBWMW: Thanks for the link to the S@D post. Wonderful commenters all. Yogihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13293286228689975057noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-79877456596923225012015-08-12T23:28:35.153-07:002015-08-12T23:28:35.153-07:00Yogi: blew my fucking mind. shown here: http://...Yogi: blew my fucking mind. shown here: http://www.inbedwithmarriedwomen.com/2012/02/how-sex-at-dawn-is-blowing-my-mind-in.html<br /><br />anonymous: love and other drugs--now on my list! thanks!in bed with married womenhttp://www.inbedwithmarriedwomen.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-51730975168019733802015-08-11T17:47:01.035-07:002015-08-11T17:47:01.035-07:00Has anyone else here read Chris Ryan and Cacilda J...Has anyone else here read Chris Ryan and Cacilda Jetha's Sex at Dawn? Their very plausible theory of polyamory moves this discussion hard to one side: for thousands of years, we may very well have fallen in love repeatedly with several people in our tribe over our lifetime. That dopamine rush may have propelled our sharing instincts, because we shared everything, EVERYthing.<br /><br />And everyone.Yogihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13293286228689975057noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-65107826707235872322015-08-10T23:55:12.553-07:002015-08-10T23:55:12.553-07:00I recently had a crush and as a married individual...I recently had a crush and as a married individual experienced many of the symptoms in your article. I was elated and sad at the same time. Elated because I found someone I had so much in common with and sad because that individual was not my spouse. This article helped put all of what I went through into perspective. Thank you. It also reminded me of a movie titled "Love and Other Drugs". Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-71867317413394312082015-07-12T18:30:47.504-07:002015-07-12T18:30:47.504-07:00Yogi, word xoYogi, word xoin bed with married womenhttp://www.inbedwithmarriedwomen.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-21749674040496609552015-07-10T23:58:15.343-07:002015-07-10T23:58:15.343-07:00And falling in love is like falling in battle...And falling in love is like falling in battle...Yogihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13293286228689975057noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-38188558604052248162014-04-28T11:00:59.704-07:002014-04-28T11:00:59.704-07:00Anonymous, that is so so...like, fucking poetic an...Anonymous, that is so so...like, fucking poetic and horrible and beautiful. in bed with married womenhttp://www.inbedwithmarriedwomen.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-26259729214596930212014-04-21T07:45:19.910-07:002014-04-21T07:45:19.910-07:00"Love / hate" is the perfect way to desc..."Love / hate" is the perfect way to describe it. <br />The relationship ended some time ago, most days I think I'm over it. Ours was a long distance relationship and those are difficult to maintain. <br />She gave me a small vial of the perfume she wore. I keep it on the nightstand. When a sniff it, I feel her hair on my face, her body in my arms, her lips on my ear. I'm blessed and cursed simultaneously.<br />I sniff the vial approximately once each week. Someday maybe I'll need it just once a month.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-8382686905696020052014-04-20T10:38:14.905-07:002014-04-20T10:38:14.905-07:00Jean, I love that you have found this exact sweet ...Jean, I love that you have found this exact sweet spot of love/lust.<br /><br />And in completely unrelated news, this missive came in from Cathya:<br /><br /><i>Don't know if I ever told you about her, but my friend Ethlie wrote a book called Love Addict<br />https://www.facebook.com/pages/Love-Addict-Sex-Romance-and-Other-Dangerous-Drugs/118903244863299<br /><br />And has a blog about love and sex addiction<br />http://affectiondeficitdisorder.com<br /><br />Loved your new post! Thought you might like to check out Ethlie's work!<br /><br />Hope you're groovy! xoxo<br /><br /></i>Jill Hamiltonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14989469118118455602noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-75239704871518453922014-04-19T17:29:18.181-07:002014-04-19T17:29:18.181-07:00I love the rush of dopamine rush like any adult......I love the rush of dopamine rush like any adult... but I know I prefer the oxytoxcin bonding high, with spikes of dopamine once in awhile. Probably around year 1 of a good relationship.<br /><br />Mean, emotionally unavailable men should Fuck off permanently to Douchebag Island. Wonderful article as usual, Jill!N/Ahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03820833129046528089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-38027679807519882952011-10-17T19:38:05.211-07:002011-10-17T19:38:05.211-07:00omg PLEASE tell me about the ecosystem. and more n...omg PLEASE tell me about the ecosystem. and more neurotransmitters. <br /><br />it makes me sooo HAWT.<br />in a good, sticky-like way.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-57680844147434564762011-10-10T17:48:31.961-07:002011-10-10T17:48:31.961-07:00Tell me how to make it stop.
I've been married...Tell me how to make it stop.<br />I've been married for 7 years now to a man who, 7 years before that was a crazy crush. He's a great guy, wonderful father to our little girl. All that.<br />Then a dude came along who, with a GLANCE turned me inside out. We've flirted, we've talked, and he's told me I do the same to him. His integrity (dammit!) will not allow him to go any further with me, as he knows I'm married with a wee one. But, due to where I work and where said dude shops, I still see him and we still chit chat.<br />It is driving me mad, making me seriously wonder if I still love my husband, getting seriously pissed off that I cannot work up passionate emotions for husband like I have for the dude, losing weight because I don't want to eat, etc.<br />WTF am I supposed to do???<br />Going Crazy HereAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-82680431313330768082011-10-08T12:05:21.513-07:002011-10-08T12:05:21.513-07:00Betty--Oh yeah, darlin', you KNOW what i like....Betty--Oh yeah, darlin', you KNOW what i like.<br />Red Shoes--I had the idea of dopamine on demand, like Dopamine Chewables or something. Does this exist? ps hope you get your fix.<br />Can't keep anything to myself--the best "squee" of all times is in "the sound of music" after liesl gets kissed out in the gazebo by that jerky "older and wiser" rolf. her response, natch: "squeeeeee!"<br />Doug Stephens--Is it wrong that i'm sort of into you going "squee!"?<br />Eliza C.--Yes. I was listening to the Velvet Underground's "I'm Waiting for My Man" and was so struck by parallels between "love" and being a heroin junkie. "I'm feeling good, I'm feeling oh so fine/Until tomorrow, but that's just some other time."<br />Vesta Vayne--I LOVE that you got strange torrid dreams from the post. My work here is done!in bed with married womenhttp://inbedwithmarriedwomen.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-57556922511148484512011-10-07T19:07:58.280-07:002011-10-07T19:07:58.280-07:00So I actually read this last night and didn't ...So I actually read this last night and didn't comment. But before going to bed I thought the whole lack of dopamine thing kinda sucks. Yes, yes, I know - slow burn. I married my crush, thankfully. But I like the dopamine high, and had sort of forgotten about it until I read the crush post.<br />Anyway, I had the most bizarre dreams last night, which I won't go into, but it was definitely from reading this post.Vesta Vaynehttp://cowardlyfeminist.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-39030179453684205132011-10-07T14:54:12.979-07:002011-10-07T14:54:12.979-07:00I hate crushes. I quite honestly wish I was asexu...I hate crushes. I quite honestly wish I was asexual sometimes as to be immune to the crush. Stupid dopamine.Eliza C.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-65052996984741836092011-10-07T07:29:37.899-07:002011-10-07T07:29:37.899-07:00I like this "crush" series. I read it an...I like this "crush" series. I read it and I'm like "SQUEEEEE!"Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-83520231315677038192011-10-06T14:36:43.728-07:002011-10-06T14:36:43.728-07:00Yay I was quoted! Squeee!
Which is an amazing int...Yay I was quoted! Squeee! <br />Which is an amazing interjection by the way. Probably my new favorite word. Perfect word for talking about crushes and drugs. <br />"I saw my crush and I was like SQUEEEEE!"<br />"I had some crack and I was like SQUEEEE!"Can't keep anything to myselfnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-89949133720092393962011-10-05T20:59:23.494-07:002011-10-05T20:59:23.494-07:00I need a dopamine jump start...
~shoes~I need a dopamine jump start...<br /><br />~shoes~Red Shoeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01919277206516592912noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-35616122355968875672011-10-05T15:44:38.056-07:002011-10-05T15:44:38.056-07:00Come closer, and I'll tell you about the ecosy...Come closer, and I'll tell you about the ecosystem ...Betty Fokkerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11270950344494895535noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-76267152168750343302011-10-05T12:33:56.843-07:002011-10-05T12:33:56.843-07:00Ooh, Betty, I think it is I (me?) that likes it wh...Ooh, Betty, I think it is I (me?) that likes it when you talk all sciencey. See new addendum above.Jill Hamiltonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14989469118118455602noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-13630168112533566702011-10-05T11:30:27.152-07:002011-10-05T11:30:27.152-07:00Of course, it changes if it becomes lasting love. ...Of course, it changes if it becomes lasting love. Apparently "Vasopressin, an antidiuretic hormone, is another chemical that has been associated with the formation of long-term, monogamous relationships ... oxytocin and vasopressin interfere with the dopamine and norepinephrine pathways, which might explain why passionate love fades as attachment grows." http://people.howstuffworks.com/love7.htm<br />All I know is I am happy when Sweet Babou is near me ... and not happy when he is not near me, and fokking miserable if he has to leave for a few days if he goes to a conference or something.Betty Fokkerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11270950344494895535noreply@blogger.com