tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post8306359264076790089..comments2024-02-02T02:12:25.389-08:00Comments on In Bed With Married Women: "The Copulatory Gaze" and the Body Language of FlirtingJill Hamiltonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14989469118118455602noreply@blogger.comBlogger30125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-30453928340882112992022-05-31T00:02:35.006-07:002022-05-31T00:02:35.006-07:00Recently my wife and I were in a public setting wh...Recently my wife and I were in a public setting where it is common to observe other people. My wife and I were interacting (get your minds out of the gutter) when a father showed up with a couple kids and sat down nearby. The fact that my wife looked over at him periodically was nothing to write home about. But I was alarmed when she coughed up two major body language tells.<br />I was like, "Wow, this guy"? So now I had to start checking this guy out. Had to concede that he did check a couple of her boxes. Then it struck me, although he was no doppelganger of her father, he could be classified in the same genre.<br />-TellTaleAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-75173801464418057152022-05-22T01:10:05.993-07:002022-05-22T01:10:05.993-07:00Long gazes and smiling are obvious, but women give...Long gazes and smiling are obvious, but women give a lot more semi/subconscious tells when they are near some eye candy. I got into female body language tells later in life. You'd be self conscious if you knew what I know, and I want the ladies (and my wife) to keep on revealing their tells.<br />-TellTaleAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-90085442577065351782022-05-21T08:04:13.899-07:002022-05-21T08:04:13.899-07:00Long gazes and smiling are obvious. There are many...Long gazes and smiling are obvious. There are many other tells that women give semi/subconsciously. I got into female body language tells later in life. I won't reveal other tells because I want my wife and other women to continue revealing tells. When you know what to look for, you get in tune with the body language around you. Helps to be distinguished.<br />-TellTaleAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-68459367303201357542022-04-26T19:37:54.021-07:002022-04-26T19:37:54.021-07:00First run for me, and I love this topic. Also, you...First run for me, and I love this topic. Also, you’re hilarious, and that’s always needed. <br />I used to be a gifted flirt. These days I am not convinced. I blush like only a redhead can, head tilt and laugh. <br />But it is spring, so I feel inspired to challenge myself to get a little flirtier. Watch out world! Ha ha Thanks, Jill. :)EdenSolhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00209185090912512881noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-81576509598124734052022-04-26T09:17:13.144-07:002022-04-26T09:17:13.144-07:00In a club, or anywhere really, a young lady making...In a club, or anywhere really, a young lady making eye contact, then licking her lips, was a good sign.. Back in the day. <br />Billy Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-6680267367729319282022-04-23T09:21:02.179-07:002022-04-23T09:21:02.179-07:00My wife was licking her lips and practically givin...My wife was licking her lips and practically giving her beer bottle a blowjob the night we met. We were at a college town pub, sitting across form each other at the horseshoe bar. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-79033366297468982902016-05-19T08:55:05.826-07:002016-05-19T08:55:05.826-07:00I now know why I seem to have a perpetually tilted...I now know why I seem to have a perpetually tilted head. <br />Not sure why I'm being notified about your blogs so late. But better late than never. perrbrohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10301819650305850716noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-11927497643593679002016-05-19T05:35:04.788-07:002016-05-19T05:35:04.788-07:00I guess the usual flirting moves don't registe...I guess the usual flirting moves don't register so much with me. But if a women slaps me up the side of the head, after a while I sort of get the hint.Lukehttp://thenakedkeyboard.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-48897395119140335182016-05-18T22:40:02.668-07:002016-05-18T22:40:02.668-07:00I'm terrible at reading signals. Because I'...I'm terrible at reading signals. Because I'm old and geezerly the only signal I can really send is something like ... yes, I have cash. Jimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18261120917316805622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-40048002699762113162012-12-18T13:56:05.095-08:002012-12-18T13:56:05.095-08:00Charley, thanks for braving up and writing. and w...Charley, thanks for braving up and writing. and with such a good story, too!in bed with married womenhttp://www.inbedwithmarriedwomen.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-56793266664351672362012-12-17T08:33:58.272-08:002012-12-17T08:33:58.272-08:00Jill, I am a new reader, i keep going back in your...Jill, I am a new reader, i keep going back in your posts to find them so entertaining and relevant now. hard not to comment even though long after the post.<br />The body language of flirting- so mysterious. Few years ago I met a man at a fundraiser, very interesting, great conversation, married, we had a great lunch few weeks later, talked about work, side projects, everything. After the third lunch some 10 months later we were in a hotel room, I was completely frozen in panic,not sure what and how it happened, nothing happened just FYI. But looking back and analyzing, I guess i must have flirted, my mind says no, but my body must have done what it wants to do. It was amazing though how i did not pick up on his signals consciously. I knew i liked him but i was blinded in a hormone storm. Now we are friends, still have great conversations which i love, and no behind-closed-doors action. Although still have crush on him but now consciously control my body language and only rarely give in few flurries to tease him.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-21863849816814633982012-12-07T08:31:35.499-08:002012-12-07T08:31:35.499-08:00Guys: eat celery. Women have a much more finely tu...Guys: eat celery. Women have a much more finely tuned sense of smell, and the celery makes your pheremones more prominent. It works! Google "celery pheremones".Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-85672675857793749652012-12-06T18:41:02.850-08:002012-12-06T18:41:02.850-08:00"Okay, so last night, Fred was staring intent..."Okay, so last night, Fred was staring intently at me, displaying his erect penis and flicking it. What do you think he meant?"<br /><br />Two words: spit take. Ms. Hamilton, I must make a note to myself to not eat or drink while reading your blog. I am going to be chuckling about this one for the rest of the day. Heck, the rest of the week! Priceless. :-) William Quincy Bellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14337095766556949027noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-62993180526645981942012-12-05T10:53:07.526-08:002012-12-05T10:53:07.526-08:00This comment has been removed by the author.William Quincy Bellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14337095766556949027noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-15341211108971851462012-12-05T10:16:58.000-08:002012-12-05T10:16:58.000-08:00Reminds me of this guy a few years back.
We met i...Reminds me of this guy a few years back. <br />We met in a group setting where he introduced himself and said he was from northern California. In the process he insulted SoCal, which is where I was born, so I had to defend it, not because I really cared, more for the sake of challenging him/pushing his buttons. So I inserted some snide remark. Don't remember what it was, but it definitely got his attention, and we had a moment of banter, while the rest of the group was totally excluded. After the group broke up, he took me aside and asked me out to lunch. Most bizarre thing ever. It was like an exception to the standard rules of flirting. <br />We had the most insane chemistry though. This guy drove me nuts. Can't keep anything to myselfnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-63715691250451901412012-06-16T11:12:34.401-07:002012-06-16T11:12:34.401-07:00Dusky--Maybe you can hold an "interpreting ge...Dusky--Maybe you can hold an "interpreting gestures" class. I think I am just missing that chunk of brain.<br />Anonymous--I know, so weird how our biology is nudging us toward people with these signals.in bed with married womenhttp://inbedwithmarriedwomen.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-62440668961054166022012-06-14T10:07:52.333-07:002012-06-14T10:07:52.333-07:00New reader, chiming in way late here. So I'm a...New reader, chiming in way late here. So I'm a happily married woman for lo these many years, and last year I developed a crush on a much-younger man. However, I was so unfamiliar with the whole thing anymore, I didn't even quite realize what was happening at first. I was like, "wow... he smells really good... and I feel kind of light-headed when he stands too close to me... weird." And apparently, while my words and conscious actions were screaming "I am a married woman! Go away!" I still couldn't help making eye contact... and holding it way too long to be acceptable. Funny how these things are so beyond our conscious control sometimes!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-10613572543071651922012-05-20T03:16:39.305-07:002012-05-20T03:16:39.305-07:00Flirting used to be my number one favourite past-t...Flirting used to be my number one favourite past-time... one I am currently attempting to re-learn.<br /><br />I used to be pretty good at picking up on male gestures, but I've lost the knack somewhat. I think partly when I was younger and more arrogant I just assumed that most men would be attracted to me and acted accordingly! And you know what, it worked a lot better than my wise, wary ways of today.<br /><br />I like deliberately flirting, noticing a worthy man (or woman for that matter) noticing me, and playing up on it outrageously. I can usually turn-on the eye gazes and coy gestures at will... about my only skill and not overly useful.<br /><br />But much more exciting is the feeling you describe, of having this behaviour suddenly taking over oneself uninvited. As you say, it sure feels fun! Just like the effects of a good seduction, the ultimate for me is to have my body respond completely beyond my control.<br /><br />Agreed that it is interesting to contemplate why we feel it for one person and not another, seemingly randomly. In my case, the man I have most strongly felt this for is also the best lover of my life... so perhaps my body knows exactly what it is doing?Duskynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-83306712888579830092012-03-08T21:03:58.662-08:002012-03-08T21:03:58.662-08:00Ah flirting... I was once an expert flirter. I don...Ah flirting... I was once an expert flirter. I don't know if I could tell you specific male gestures, I just knew them by instinct. And my own flirting moves - especially with eyes & mouth - I could turn on at will. But even more exciting is that feeling you describe, of finding oneself accidentally flirting due to that indescribable physical tug of someone. I really don't mind if I like the guy or not - flirting is fun! These days I'm a bit rusty and have lost confidence in my attractiveness... but I'm back in training. :)DuskyMaidennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-28288829793196832432011-09-08T09:55:18.459-07:002011-09-08T09:55:18.459-07:00Vixen, I am enjoying the idea of your sales guy fl...Vixen, I am enjoying the idea of your sales guy flicking desperately as you continually don't pick up his signals.<br />JackJuste, and if Trader Joe's chick touches your arm--you are so in.<br />Belinda, I have had several people (women) tell me that they never make eye contact with men. So strange that that is really all it would take...<br />Annabelle, if only we could quiz hugging guy to see if he is stifling the hugging urge as well.<br />Betty, I think you have the makings of a Hallmark card somewhere in there.<br />Not the Hero, good luck! let us know how it works out!<br />spiritsentient, yes. perhaps we could adopt semiphore for even clearer signals.<br />Mongo, i so love that you could observe the signals as they were happening. i aspire to your mastery of it all. p.s. a wee smile guide: smile, no teeth= okay. smile, botton and top teeth=aggressive, smile, top teeth= home run.<br />Paul, i will keep an eye out for overly flirtatious politicians.<br />Enid, now i wonder if scent attraction can overrule off-kilter signals or it good signals could surmount smell mismatch. someone, get on this at once and report back.Jill Hamiltonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14989469118118455602noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-64645376460298952992011-09-02T01:59:22.507-07:002011-09-02T01:59:22.507-07:00Why him? or why her? I watched a documentary and i...Why him? or why her? I watched a documentary and it said it's all because of our scent.<br /><br /><a href="http://steamyfantasy.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow"> Every Savage Can Reproduce</a>Enid Wilsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12248877161249788607noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-68666299560446698062011-08-30T23:34:13.383-07:002011-08-30T23:34:13.383-07:00Flirting behavior can get into different arenas: p...Flirting behavior can get into different arenas: political, economical or even carnivorous! A housewife is considered lucky when she ended up with an extra vacuum cleaner (think about all those poor male spiders!)...didn't you seen the male (or female) politicians angling their necks at you (or YOU!)...:):)Paulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15867403006412320812noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-68233853037704782782011-08-29T19:23:12.465-07:002011-08-29T19:23:12.465-07:00Last weekend, I was at a neighborhood coffee hango...Last weekend, I was at a neighborhood coffee hangout. A woman, who was (in one Dog's opinion) attractive, stirred her drink as she turned around from the coffee condiments counter, and found me looking at her.<br /><br />Continuing to stir her drink, she raised her eyebrows. I raised mine. She smiled (no teeth), I smiled back. Then, she held up her left hand and waggled a two-ring wedding set on her third finger at me, and walked casually out of the shop.<br /><br />She could have given me the <i>middle</i> finger, I suppose; no idea what that was all about, but I'm still laughing.Mongo, At The Momenthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00973606827337262084noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-54243499563083865672011-08-29T15:38:40.785-07:002011-08-29T15:38:40.785-07:00Great post, great topic, great comments :)
I pers...Great post, great topic, great comments :)<br /><br />I personally am a huge fan of:<br /><br />a) freedom/free-will + personal choice<br />b) clear communication, including body language, and societal signals.<br /><br />I believe the signals vary from culture to culture (though eye-gazing may be more globally universal...), and that they evolved for a reason. Dancing around, playing games, and avoiding our true-er goals of interacting, connecting, bonding, and growing together -- is not productive for life. So life ensures we have clear signals and communication.<br /><br />I also believe that on the whole, humanity likes it this way.<br /><br />Be as secretive as you like, life ensures clear communication.<br /><br />I for one, go with the flow, and if I want to stare at someone's beauty... I will :) And I expect them to receive the attention as a wonderful compliment. Period. Then I either move on, or move toward ;)<br /><br />Anyway, just my two cents. Fantastic post!spiritsentienthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00434400969741169914noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-76617398415213533392011-08-29T09:19:33.594-07:002011-08-29T09:19:33.594-07:00I'm going to have to try that flicking my erec...I'm going to have to try that flicking my erect penis thing. It sounds totally legit. <br /><br />As for reading female body language, yes I am pretty decent at it, until a certain point. That point is usually when I'm attracted to her. Once I want to have sex with her, I'm lost. I either over analyze everything or I don't notice even the most blatant advance. I don't get it.Not the Herohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01560658711479024512noreply@blogger.com