tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post7079785389601507973..comments2024-03-21T18:26:23.834-07:00Comments on In Bed With Married Women: 7 Reasons Why Breakups Suck So Damn BadJill Hamiltonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14989469118118455602noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-19015170749794105982023-05-24T16:44:11.753-07:002023-05-24T16:44:11.753-07:00Good job!Good job!Jimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18261120917316805622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-5630497312338810922016-12-10T10:42:03.788-08:002016-12-10T10:42:03.788-08:00Jesus, Mongo, that was so beautifully written. Sa...Jesus, Mongo, that was so beautifully written. Saying anything about it is just gonna ruin it so. just. damn.Jill Hamiltonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14989469118118455602noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-12181374819351822412016-12-09T18:31:30.355-08:002016-12-09T18:31:30.355-08:00My first real love, the one where sex and emotion ...My first real love, the one where sex and emotion and commitment all came together, was in college in the mid-Seventies. It wasn't a simple relationship, but things worked and we lived together for a little over five years. It ended on a spectacularly low note and took quite a while to come back from. <br /><br />We didn't see each other for seven years; I'd heard about her through mutual acquaintances, and one night around a Christmas in the mid-Eighties gave her a call. You know where this is going -- but we couldn't get past the original breakup and things ended on another spectacularly low note. <br /><br />Years rolled by; decades. The emotional quality of every other relationship since hasn't really met the standard of that first connection (not possible to recapture, I know, and I haven't expected to). There have been different kinds of high points and physical intensity, but not that <i>je ne sais quoi</i> between two people that says <i>you're home</i>. I grew older, paid less attention to relationships and all that comes with them.<br /><br />A few months ago, in a real Proustian moment, I got into an elevator and caught a whiff of perfume that lit up all the neurons connected with the Old Love. The connection was so sharp and immediate that I was actually breathless: it was... everything. A sense of history, time passing; not loss, so much as an absence of something; a line from a Delmore Schwartz poem (0 your life, your lonely life / What have you ever done with it). And it was like breaking up all over again. <br /><br />This, just a counterpoint to Bob's comment about aging. Breakups do suck, even if you're not twenty-three. They suck triple-hulled oil tankers. I don't think it's aging, or being jaded with experience, or a lack of testosterone that affects how much we hurt. In the end, we need to remember not what was lost, but that we felt understood and safe for a while, and weren't afraid of being open to Another in a particular way. And maybe -- <i>maybe</i> -- we could do it again.<br /><br />'scuse me; gotta go prove I'm not a Robot.Mongo, At The Momenthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00973606827337262084noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-60735679390409134102016-12-05T16:02:47.352-08:002016-12-05T16:02:47.352-08:00Hot! PS: I loved the pic on the top of article.Hot! PS: I loved the pic on the top of article.garota vip club modelshttp://vipclubmodels.com.brnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-42637455944537861992016-05-29T15:56:30.511-07:002016-05-29T15:56:30.511-07:00Walter Prescott--thank you!
The rest of you--why c...Walter Prescott--thank you!<br />The rest of you--why can't you be more like Walter Prescott?in bed with married womenhttp://www.inbedwithmarriedwomen.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-91709342464581222192016-05-29T14:33:03.084-07:002016-05-29T14:33:03.084-07:00Liked and shared on stumbleupon and facebook. Very...Liked and shared on stumbleupon and facebook. Very well writtenAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05216179200826864735noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-18432418979424211142016-01-16T17:52:35.097-08:002016-01-16T17:52:35.097-08:00thanks bloodmagickprincess. hope is all w/ you in...thanks bloodmagickprincess. hope is all w/ you in that dept. these days. xoJill Hamiltonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14989469118118455602noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-58029889119045552712016-01-16T15:50:51.565-08:002016-01-16T15:50:51.565-08:00This is a Great Piece... Re: 'Breakups turn yo...This is a Great Piece... Re: 'Breakups turn you into a jonesing addict' They really really do.... Sometimes, we are lucky enough that someone will go through withdrawals with you... That's always worth being thankful for. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-17742769886875825802015-12-02T13:54:55.208-08:002015-12-02T13:54:55.208-08:00Hey Bob W., thanks! I got a lot of feedback from p...Hey Bob W., thanks! I got a lot of feedback from people who wrote private emails to say this hit them deep. So if you are less susceptible, I say GOOD. I've heard from several older people that not feeling the intense sort of love/sexual compulsions is a huge relief. Like they are just damn happy to be able to focus on other things. Super interesting to me... Jill Hamiltonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14989469118118455602noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-75499679052081879162015-12-01T17:24:47.628-08:002015-12-01T17:24:47.628-08:00This is a terrific article. The research done and ...This is a terrific article. The research done and the articulate manner in which the information is communicated is noteworthy. <br /><br />I'm always intrigued with our biology and how it has evolved in such a finely tuned way in order to drive us to "bed" one another. (The purpose of that "bedding" is obviously for species survival by way of procreation.) When I consider that evolution, I gain a small glimpse of just how big a number 3.8 billion is and also just how long a time, in years, that it is.<br /><br />Thank you, Jill, for offering all this within a perspective that your readers can relate to and for lending a bit more to the public dialogue of a subject that is always in need of "more", that, of course, being, The Theory of Evolution.<br /><br />As to "relationships", I've had my share of the full range of emotion with them. What I think I've learned over time as I've aged though, is that the more I understand about myself and my evolutionary history, the less susceptible I seem to be to the unmitigated grasp those emotions tend to have. It's either that that I experience or I'm simply getting old and things are slowly shutting down now. Either way, that's my interpretation.<br /><br />Bob W.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-63245342908716739602015-11-18T14:38:22.314-08:002015-11-18T14:38:22.314-08:00Anon, Oh dear Sam Kinison. Haven't thought ab...Anon, Oh dear Sam Kinison. Haven't thought about him in years. thanks for that in my day!Jill Hamiltonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14989469118118455602noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-71000811140648843922015-11-18T06:16:00.229-08:002015-11-18T06:16:00.229-08:00Relationships seem to run a certain course. There...Relationships seem to run a certain course. There are as many songs written about losing love as there are finding love. If you are looking for a song that will help you move on, I suggest this poignant love song written by Sam Kinison.<br /><br />https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cV1dyV9d_1k<br /><br />Your next relationship will fall in your lap when you get over the last one.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com