tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post6718132782308955595..comments2024-03-21T18:26:23.834-07:00Comments on In Bed With Married Women: Diagnosis: A Case of FemalenessJill Hamiltonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14989469118118455602noreply@blogger.comBlogger28125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-57047537012214722332016-12-10T20:12:14.623-08:002016-12-10T20:12:14.623-08:00Well, I would have to agree with DrAlanK, and Ms. ...Well, I would have to agree with DrAlanK, and Ms. Hamilton. Speaking to Ms. Hamilton's post, aside from the pharmaceutical industry's interest in making money, the big problem there is the presumption that women are broken men.<br /><br />There are at least a couple of fantastic books that explain otherwise. As you have mentioned previously, Vagina by Naomi Wolf, and another, Come As you Are, by Emily Nagoski explain that women (surprise!) don't work the same way as men. <br /><br />Hallelujah!<br /><br />Continue to love your blog.OldGuyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14055034006831318764noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-55679022088359844732016-12-06T11:22:31.864-08:002016-12-06T11:22:31.864-08:00DrAlanK, there you go. One of one doctors commenti...DrAlanK, there you go. One of one doctors commenting today agree. Jill Hamiltonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14989469118118455602noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-68556907882363626952016-12-06T11:00:47.083-08:002016-12-06T11:00:47.083-08:00Never in all the history of human existence has a ...Never in all the history of human existence has a woman dropped her panties and had a man say "oh dear; that's not an attractive vulva. Please put your panties back on."Dr AlanKnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-50010199589569787272016-12-03T14:41:39.811-08:002016-12-03T14:41:39.811-08:00Caitlin, I believe you sister. Ps i totally love ...Caitlin, I believe you sister. Ps i totally love your book. just have a few reader books and wanted to compile them in a post but instead i have chosen to play words with friends or something.<br /><br />mongo, yeah dude. also sorry about the robot thing. i specifically checked off a box that said i did NOT want such verification, but Some Guy or whoever, just put it there anyway.Jill Hamiltonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14989469118118455602noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-47299127526890947672016-12-01T20:00:14.407-08:002016-12-01T20:00:14.407-08:00I join the echo chamber: Convincing people that th...I join the echo chamber: Convincing people that they aren't 'okay' (and that others <i>are</i>) because their bodies don't have [insert here], don't meet a certain visual template, or don't meet a standard of function invented by Some Guy, should be a crime that will have the Perp hauled in front of the International Criminal Court at the Hague. Period. And that's before we even get into a discussion of making money with that formula. <br /><br />It would be hideous to live in a country where its First Lady, or That Guy With Her, supported these ideas and the assumptions behind them. <i>Hideous</i>. 'scuse me; gotta go prove I'm not a robot.Mongo, At The Momenthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00973606827337262084noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-6352315314032939732016-11-30T21:04:35.334-08:002016-11-30T21:04:35.334-08:00Don't make me post a link to "The Perfect...Don't make me post a link to "The Perfect Vagina" again because I can and I will!<br /><br />Always love a good rant and too much femaleness is just not even any kind of a problem.<br />All I can say is "make it stop" I mean seriously who the fuck thinks that cutting into your lady bits to "neaten" them is a good idea. Who are these people and can we all agree that they are some kind of neat freaking monsters. that is allcaitlingracehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03112784046653134951noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-85510777673692619902013-02-01T21:10:23.375-08:002013-02-01T21:10:23.375-08:00@RyzeOnline: Yes, it is the human condition to at...@RyzeOnline: Yes, it is the human condition to attempt to emulate some faddish ideal. However, the plastic surgeons witnessed the flood of women who would $PAY$ to have their chests carved up and one of them figured: Hey, we got them carving their faces, now their breasts, what else can we SELL them on to help the Feel Whole???<br /><br />Pink Taco Surgery! <br />All I can say is, if it flaps so bad you can't have comfortable sex, that is a problem. But to Main Steam it seems Problematic.<br /><br />But, tons of money can be made exploiting Real and Imagined Problems.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-16791020023823084712012-03-26T16:54:30.017-07:002012-03-26T16:54:30.017-07:00Mr. Science--yeah, let's get right on that who...Mr. Science--yeah, let's get right on that whole solving the world's sexual problems thing. i might go have some peanuts and a walk first.<br />Lost--Never before have i liked you more than after I read your sentences "they don't need be to rejuvenated. they need to be fucked."<br />TheMysteryWife--my friend and I decided that we should bring back "word." you with us?<br />Chloe--See above. Though now I'm thinking "spot on" instead. It has a lovely international flair.<br />DK--yes. that.<br />Dan--oh dear god, flappy! Flappy! Sorry, can't get past "flappy" to provide any coherent sentence back to you.<br />Cagey-C--so what you're saying is that you know of something that will send my very soul aquiver? sweet!<br />onnothankyou--that made me happy. thanks.<br />Anonymous--what IS the point is EXACTLY the point.<br />Stacey--That's cool b/c you generally have lots of words. Good ones, too.<br />ican'tbrain--You have a lucky partner. good for you.<br />Anonymous2: right. what the hell are we doing to ourselves?<br />RyzeOnline: I can't believe you have no takers on your questions! Such a good one too!in bed with married womenhttp://inbedwithmarriedwomen.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-82045033502069809772012-03-18T19:59:06.504-07:002012-03-18T19:59:06.504-07:00I love the passion of the rant. I love the 'di...I love the passion of the rant. I love the 'distaste' for invasive, ineffective procedures. I love comments and discussion.<br /><br />I'd like to add a couple questions:<br /><br />Over the course of evolution, has humanity consistently aimed to "look better"?<br /><br />(whether that be through technology or improved diet or decoration or whatever)?<br /><br />Why or why not?Jason "J-Ryze" Foncecahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15243973447817719662noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-65906564314313425592012-03-16T07:38:26.800-07:002012-03-16T07:38:26.800-07:00I agree that the before pussy looked better - much...I agree that the before pussy looked better - much more sensuous! <br />I love uncircumsized man parts too.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-10325472325471253252012-03-12T07:32:24.573-07:002012-03-12T07:32:24.573-07:00Seriously? This crap is going on?
Thank god, the ...Seriously? This crap is going on?<br /><br />Thank god, the first chick I ever had sex with was smart enough to teach me what to do - not only that, she drove home the point that I need to listen to all women about what stimulates them.<br /><br />I'm no superman in bed, but I do live by the motto, "Ladies first." My wife of ten years will still come 2-3 times each time and the last is always from penetration (though we both agree it's because she's highly stimulated by that point)<br /><br />Uh, anyway, great article!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-29461027559616528912012-03-10T17:25:54.004-08:002012-03-10T17:25:54.004-08:00I . . . have no words. Wow.I . . . have no words. Wow.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-85913515729485199312012-03-04T09:33:14.704-08:002012-03-04T09:33:14.704-08:00I just do not AT ALL understand that labial rejuve...I just do not AT ALL understand that labial rejuvenation photo scenario. Is the point here that the labia minora are somehow too large or exerted? And is it truly vaginal surgery or just labial surgery?<br /><br />The "before" labia look so perfect to me, as more to lick and especially wrap around my nose.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-28670635790810461672012-03-02T08:30:08.033-08:002012-03-02T08:30:08.033-08:00(Not to be confused with FTD, which provides human...(Not to be confused with FTD, which provides human females with unattractive flower arrangements).<br /><br />BAHAHAHAHAHA.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-6709380279718422462012-03-01T14:12:30.843-08:002012-03-01T14:12:30.843-08:00This really take the commodification of the body t...This really take the commodification of the body to absurd places. An excellent feminist rant, Jill. And D.K. is absolutely right that even the quality toys provided by your corporate overlords (which are quite fun, at least the couple that we've got here at home) are another symptom of that commodification; we've got this sense that there must be some sort of sexual shangri-la that, if only we have the right device or the right secret technique, we'll stumble into, legs, bodies, very souls acquiver. The irony is that we put our hopes in finding this through purchasing the right product or being initiated into the right knowledge rather than in just exploring how our bodies work together best with our partners' bodies.<br /><br />I'm not saying anything new at this point, but what I really appreciated was the connection you drew with your references to genital mutilation. We are quick to call out what other cultures do, but we ignore the fact that we also have our regimens for regulating bodies, and that those can be every bit as damaging.Cagey-Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06336508567944952383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-61292229809299731052012-03-01T12:31:33.591-08:002012-03-01T12:31:33.591-08:00holy lap-dancing jesus...weird double take on this...holy lap-dancing jesus...weird double take on this one did i do...<br />yesterday trundling home from work head buried in some book i overheard a woman behind me talk about having a 'bit of work done 'down there'as hubby said it was a bit 'flappy''and i went all red faced...i noticed the lady in front of me clear her throat as she had noticed my reaction...she leaned forward and said quite loudly, 'no-one touches my cunt except me and my lover!' to the 'hear hear' of a couple of other women further down the aisle haha....<br />indeed we do live in mad times...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-69183627898147850932012-03-01T12:04:28.332-08:002012-03-01T12:04:28.332-08:00Oh, the impossible dream! How to make us so sexual...Oh, the impossible dream! How to make us so sexually perfect that we will live happy ever after. There are always insecure fools who will buy bridges, Brooklyn, Golden Gate, take your choice. The horrible genital surgeries forced on adolescent girls are evil, but voluntarily and needlessly letting a scalpel loose in your vulva seems the height of insanity. But, then, so do plasticized breasts and poofy lips. Think of it: increasing the size of the upstairs lips while decreasing the size of the downstairs lips, which certainly turns some men on but definitely turns many men off. Think of it in the same family as men having surgery, or using heavy weights or machines, to make their penis longer, often to a size that would make women flee. These distortions have to come from the sexual repression this country still suffers from.<br /><br />Now, in a way, vibrating cock rings fall into the same category--things that promise to make sex better but don't. I've been there, done that. The vibrator doesn't make the cock itself vibrate, or wouldn't unless the thing was industrial size, which would rather interfere with the activity.The cock isn't in deep enough most of the time to do your partner any good. I would think--I know--the woman would rather have the vibrator on her and be in control of it.<br /><br />A Conversation<br /><br />"Honey, what's that buzz?<br />"My new What's It cock ring, Dear."<br />"Is that all it does?"D.K.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-30315128497453775432012-02-29T13:02:58.827-08:002012-02-29T13:02:58.827-08:00Yes, this. Totally word. Spot on!Yes, this. Totally word. Spot on!Chloëhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03525391715106497339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-52941830555729090452012-02-29T06:34:00.149-08:002012-02-29T06:34:00.149-08:00Word.Word.Themysterywifehttp://www.twitter.com/themysterywifenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-1640634723344415972012-02-28T16:02:02.496-08:002012-02-28T16:02:02.496-08:00Great stuff. I am not sure about you calling this ...Great stuff. I am not sure about you calling this a real feminist rant though...it seems to me this is on the reasonable side in comparison to some of the rants I've read lately, in which I wouldn't even consider responding with any constructive criticism for fear of losing my voice, involuntarily. <br /><br />I think you did a great job framing some of the biggest sex problems (misleading marketing, sexual ignorance and poor sex education). <br /><br />Now if we as sex bloggers could all just come up with some simple solutions to these problems. Sadly, I think it's going to take a lot of our time and energy and some creative problem solving. But hopefully, someday we'll look back and be glad we made a difference. <br /><br />Keep up the writing, it's great motivation for all those blogs I have been intending to write.<br /><br />-Mr. ScienceMr. Sciencehttp://www.spermbrain.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-39630249248500753492012-02-28T15:53:07.158-08:002012-02-28T15:53:07.158-08:00Dirtycowgirl--teenagers? the world HAS gone mad! (...Dirtycowgirl--teenagers? the world HAS gone mad! (though generational difference: on the vag rejuv site i looked at there was this whole disclaimer about this being a "difficult" subject to talk about, blah blah blah so there was an email address you could write to. whereas the younger chicks are being in a documentary about it.<br />Zany--thank you dear one. i'll keep you updated on my possible mercury poisoning (and my possibly de-Irished skin!)<br />Gia--a. now i am just pissed i didn't end my rant with "/endrant" because that is genius.<br />b. you words gave me a picture of a world in which men got ball surgery, walking about with giant balls, ball-displaying pants, ball cleavage... so thanks for that.in bed with married womenhttp://inbedwithmarriedwomen.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-45310266439826960332012-02-28T15:45:08.579-08:002012-02-28T15:45:08.579-08:00Hhahahah...very true. The whole women-being-self-...Hhahahah...very true. The whole women-being-self-conscious-and-having-surgery-because-of-the-way-their-vagina-looks is CRAZY. Do men do that?!? NOO. It's similar to boob jobs, in my mind. I mean on one hand I don't want to care what other women do with their bodies because that is their choice. But when a bunch of women are getting boob jobs and men aren't getting an equivalent (ball surgery, perhaps?) then its not just their "choice' and more about society's expectations that women are inherently flawed and need to change. /endrant.Giahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10026292498250130247noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-26258418175944176602012-02-28T15:39:02.587-08:002012-02-28T15:39:02.587-08:00Great post! But then, when do you ever NOT deliver...Great post! But then, when do you ever NOT deliver a great one? <br /><br />Mercury poisoning is bad, m'kay.The Zany Housewifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12982605801053941873noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-27074019450442839902012-02-28T15:27:32.595-08:002012-02-28T15:27:32.595-08:00Funny as ever, but also a very valid point.
A whi...Funny as ever, but also a very valid point.<br /><br />A while ago I watched a documentary about the same subject, worrying as it was teenagers who were thinking about surgery.<br /><br />You have to wonder where they get the idea from that there is something wrong with them. I can kind of understand women who've had a few babies wanting things back as they once were. <br />But teenagers ?<br />The world's gone mad.dirtycowgirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04193492692357362402noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-53208983303367199862012-02-28T15:22:05.002-08:002012-02-28T15:22:05.002-08:00Zannie Q.--Thanks! Appreciate the support since I ...Zannie Q.--Thanks! Appreciate the support since I felt sort of iffy being so, you know, mad and stuff. (Maybe I have PMS or some other woman disease.)<br />Belinda--I'm sure your before is smokin'. Smok-in', I say. Because it's willing and able and attached to YOU. <br />BradleyJ--thank you dear boy. for those not willing to go the surgical route, i just came upon a company selling shapewear for the bedroom. so no one will have to see a woman's actual body during sex. *sigh*in bed with married womenhttp://inbedwithmarriedwomen.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.com