tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post6382926817405074662..comments2024-03-21T18:26:23.834-07:00Comments on In Bed With Married Women: Nosy-Ass Question for You About Making Out Jill Hamiltonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14989469118118455602noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-87105786068657597592014-05-20T10:54:13.270-07:002014-05-20T10:54:13.270-07:00thanks jack! putting it on my resume at once.thanks jack! putting it on my resume at once.in bed with married womenhttp://www.inbedwithmarriedwomen.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-35530450606343757432014-05-11T04:32:47.134-07:002014-05-11T04:32:47.134-07:00A little erotic nostalgia. Congratulations on maki...A little erotic nostalgia. Congratulations on making Kinknote.com's Top 10 Blog Post of the Week!Jack Conneryhttp://www.kinknote.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-42188623402280656702014-05-06T13:28:45.418-07:002014-05-06T13:28:45.418-07:00Mr. Manners, er, sorry 'bout thatMr. Manners, er, sorry 'bout that<br />in bed with married womenhttp://www.inbedwithmarriedwomen.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-60935808181879338262014-05-05T20:58:58.309-07:002014-05-05T20:58:58.309-07:00You know, that is possibly the saddest thing I'...You know, that is possibly the saddest thing I've ever heard about growing old with someone and could possibly keep me single my entire life.Mr. Mannershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16361980789397380190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-55565216432167665422014-05-02T10:46:22.254-07:002014-05-02T10:46:22.254-07:00Most recent Anonymous, thank you--that was lovely....Most recent Anonymous, thank you--that was lovely. And I always, always dig when people have a "personal theory" about something.in bed with married womenhttp://www.inbedwithmarriedwomen.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-21056947170334012502014-05-01T13:37:05.527-07:002014-05-01T13:37:05.527-07:00I've been married for 20 years, with my husban...I've been married for 20 years, with my husband for 25. We still make-out, although usually as a preamble to sex. However, some of the most fun we had was while I was pregnant and on pelvic rest. Lots of making out and blow jobs/hand jobs. Really, really fun. I think making out is so important. Women need to get warmed up, and nothing warms you up better. And kissing him has only gotten better over time. I wish we could just sit and make-out on the couch, but timing is tough. When we first got together I loved the smell of his breath, even in the morning. I'd say in the last 5 years morning breath has not been a turn-on, but that's why toothbrushes were invented! It makes me sad that other women give this stuff up. I'd love to know why. For me, everything sexual is just plain fun, where I can just let go of all my troubles. I have a personal theory that the amt of sex a woman wants is directly proportional to how many/how easy her orgasms. Might be another survey in there somewhere.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-70868499747839189992014-04-29T20:55:45.980-07:002014-04-29T20:55:45.980-07:00this from ed077:
I've actually asked my boyfri...this from ed077:<br />I've actually asked my boyfriend recently why we don't make out anymore. His answer was that it was just too messy and he doesn't feel like it. It used to be amazing, lots of kissing and petting. Now it's barely a peck on the mouth maybe a few times a week, but only when I ask.<br /><br />I think kissing can be even more intimate than sex itself. It's more tender. It's something I crave just as much as sex. The best sex I've had was when it's mixed with making out and cuddling (I know this sound like stereotypical "women" thinking, but it's true). <br /><br />I have an inkling to think that maybe once you live with your partner, kissing becomes almost obsolete because you can just jump to sex whenever you want. When you lived apart and would meet in non-personal places, kissing is one the one thing you can do to encourage a sexual response. <br />in bed with married womenhttp://www.inbedwithmarriedwomen.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-16690705691376201812014-04-29T11:26:44.847-07:002014-04-29T11:26:44.847-07:00Also:
Random Girl--God, so well written. Esp. &q...Also:<br /><br />Random Girl--God, so well written. Esp. "the thrill of the research fades into oblivion." *sigh*<br /><br />Anonymous--I am madly in love with your intelligence right now. So there.in bed with married womenhttp://www.inbedwithmarriedwomen.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-59644902489159259572014-04-29T11:18:43.633-07:002014-04-29T11:18:43.633-07:00Hello there, more comments from the SexPositive Re...Hello there, more comments from the SexPositive Reddit (http://www.reddit.com/r/SexPositive/comments/247zq8/do_you_take_the_time_to_make_out_with_your/) for you miss "janet" or whoever wants 'em:<br /><br />--crazy_monkey_trouble<br />I love it, but the wife seems not to anymore. :/ <br /><br />--neptunewasp <br />My SO and I still make out after about two years. I honestly need it to be happy. We do it when were not going to have sex as well as when we are, it feels artificial to me if it's just before sex. Honestly, it turns me on a lot, more than some foreplay does. Plus I get the super close romantic feeling and I love it. I think it's important not to ditch acts of affection like this when the honeymoon stage is over.<br /><br />--malloryshapiro <br />I think petting is something a lot of couples fall out of. I know in my relationships we've only tended to do it toward the beginning, though as things spread out it becomes less and less common. I think a lot of the time we think of it as something only kids do because sex provides the bigger and better pay off, but actually just returning to a lot of simple physical contact like that can help you explore other avenues of eroticism you've forgotten about or didn't know existed. It can really help liven up the stale patterns of love making we can fall into "I touch you here, then here, then here, then we orgasm, talk for a bit and go to sleep.<br /><br />--hiddenstar<br />I'm a slightly different demographic because I'm not married and don't even live with my partner yet, but we've been dating for three years now and we still make out. It's great, I love kissing :) it often leads to sex, but not always.<br /><br />--soundbunny<br />Make out in public! I took my fella to a concert this weekend. Made out for ages during the opener. <br /><br />--And further from GeorgeWashingtonBush on the idea of slowing down:<br />It's not necessarily about slowing down per say. It's about making each moment meaningful into itself without expectations . But it's also about structuring the experience chronologically as if it were a song so that each moment makes sense next to the one before it. None of it really had to do with orgasm<br /><br />in bed with married womenhttp://www.inbedwithmarriedwomen.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-19858754919912479962014-04-29T07:13:11.000-07:002014-04-29T07:13:11.000-07:00If you want the findings of an expert in this area...If you want the findings of an expert in this area, you can watch this Esther Perel TED talk http://www.ted.com/talks/esther_perel_the_secret_to_desire_in_a_long_term_relationship. Familiarity kills the thrill of the unknown. Solutions could be polyamory, and kink. But those present another set of problems. Dilemmas like this make life interesting.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-20812134223422525262014-04-29T06:20:03.055-07:002014-04-29T06:20:03.055-07:00The one primary perk to being single is that I can...The one primary perk to being single is that I can make out with anyone I choose at will...and sometimes I do! I recall the drudgery of kissing the now ex-hubs and how it was only obligatory to lead directly to sex (routine...yawn) and then get on with our individual business. <br />I love to make out...it's one of my favorite things falling only slightly behind coffee and sleeping in. I sometimes will have additional dates with a low potential guy strictly because I love how he kisses and I'm selfish like that. <br />I think part of the appeal of making out is the unknown. It's like an exciting game to figure out what he likes, how much he likes, what really gets the groan vs what seems mildly enjoyable. It's the best kind of research in my opinion. <br />With that said, I also know that once you've sealed the deal and are faithfully committed to only kissing one person whom you've already figured out everything about for the rest of eternity...the thrill of the research fades into oblivion. At least it did for me. I need the unknowns. Random Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05494483624821880838noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-24844756709586379672014-04-28T20:18:23.904-07:002014-04-28T20:18:23.904-07:00Bons, Sorry girlie. Or guy. I guess you're h...Bons, Sorry girlie. Or guy. I guess you're helping someone feel better by comparison... yay?<br /><br />Also here are some comments that came in via the SexPositive Reddit:<br /><br />--from sunlit_shadows: Aaand now I really wanna make out. Unfortunately my SO only wants to before or during sex. :-/<br /><br />--from the always-delightful threechordsongs: Yup! I had a conversation a while back with my partner about how I like making out, more than more typically intense sexual activities. I could see it took them a while to get used to, but it's been awesome :) <br />(side note, giggled so much at "In Thy Bede Withe Thee Married Wiffe").<br /><br />--from GeorgeWashingtonBush: I try, she really doesn't understand the notion of slowing down. I have to teach her.in bed with married womenhttp://www.inbedwithmarriedwomen.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-32296319057353726592014-04-28T14:28:18.282-07:002014-04-28T14:28:18.282-07:00My husband and I never make out. I love kissing bu...My husband and I never make out. I love kissing but he is not (and never has been)a good kisser. And lately he doesn't smell appealing to me either. Weird. Depressing. Bonsnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-62572285732755664202014-04-28T14:10:49.856-07:002014-04-28T14:10:49.856-07:00aj, I will advise your associates of this your sta...aj, I will advise your associates of this your state of mind so they will be pre-warned. <br /><br />anonymous, so sweet. can't take it. hate this kind of mismatching!<br /><br />anonymous 2, that is indeed a problem. good luck with further "corrective" efforts.Jill Hamiltonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14989469118118455602noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-73424186192953931822014-04-28T13:06:16.603-07:002014-04-28T13:06:16.603-07:00I do enjoy making out, but must make a couple note...I do enjoy making out, but must make a couple notes here. My beloved will kiss but teeth must be brushed beforehand etc etc. (Your photo link is very good in that it shows how things generally proceed when I have successfully plied her with wine BYW).A real issue for me is hygiene. My beloved Refuses to shower before "date night" My clumsy attempts at corrective action have been fruitless, and in fact counterproductive. <br />LOVe this column!<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-34947078876829225492014-04-28T11:38:00.870-07:002014-04-28T11:38:00.870-07:00I would love, love, love to make out with my wife....I would love, love, love to make out with my wife. Kissing and touching and biting and all that wonderful teenage stuff... it's a huge turn-on for me. She has no patience for it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-37955792882668592014-04-28T11:29:41.191-07:002014-04-28T11:29:41.191-07:00ah, i love that you always make me laugh out loud ...ah, i love that you always make me laugh out loud :) and i have no constructive comment given my lengthy singledom, except that this post made me SERIOUSLY want to make out with someone. today. this second. :)ajhttp://www.centerforsustainablemedicine.comnoreply@blogger.com