tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post5157918050386304059..comments2024-03-21T18:26:23.834-07:00Comments on In Bed With Married Women: Tag, You're ItJill Hamiltonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14989469118118455602noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-52637929656697263412011-09-02T22:39:33.210-07:002011-09-02T22:39:33.210-07:00This is the first time I read Dan Savage, so excus...This is the first time I read Dan Savage, so excuse me if I'm a little unversed in his true beliefs, but here's my take on HIS take on SAC's letter.<br /><br />I think his reaction is immature, especially coming from someone who is famous for advising troubled gay youths. The philosophy that "it's just an adolescent phase, and it will go away" is analogous to the reaction of a five year old who thinks covering his urinated bed with old newspaper will make the problem disappear. It's completely short-sighted.<br /><br />I'll admit. I DON'T have good advice for SAC. And even though I disagree with Mr. Savage, I admire the fact that he still responded, and it may be more effective than my silence on this issue. Of course incest has been abhorred since the beginning of structured society -whereas homosexuality was accepted on and off through various civilizations. It's kind of weird though that Mr. Savage had the same reaction a 1950's psychologist would have had if he were diagnosing a completely normal gay boy.<br /><br />My two cents...Leilahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04490635107983302531noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-56195952290364033902011-08-29T19:06:52.940-07:002011-08-29T19:06:52.940-07:00I'm hoping it's a 'sorting out' ph...I'm hoping it's a 'sorting out' phase; at the same time, scared that it isn't. Sigh.<br /><br />Also: I don't know which has <i>Well just creep me out why don't ya</i> written all over it in bigger letters -- considering the situation "Scared & Confused" presents; or waking up to find the Burger King King, who always looked (to me, ayway) like George W. Bush with a beard...Mongo, At The Momenthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00973606827337262084noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-82157753652949972712011-08-28T11:52:28.327-07:002011-08-28T11:52:28.327-07:00Betty, yes I wondered that as well.
And Cinderita,...Betty, yes I wondered that as well.<br />And Cinderita, i loved your post--honest and open minded. will comment at once.<br />Toni, I like that. Much catchier than my brain wave mumbo jumbo.Jill Hamiltonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14989469118118455602noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-39749524195865572862011-08-26T07:43:24.758-07:002011-08-26T07:43:24.758-07:00My best friend calls the "magic brain wave me...My best friend calls the "magic brain wave mechanism" you mentioned something a bit more active: "I can't know this by myself." She and I also joke about getting a big knife (or chainsaw) first, so we can cut the top of our heads off and let out the far-too-vivid image that is sure to form from "knowing this"... whatever "this" may be.toni in floridahttp://itsnotgonnawriteitself.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-90922348015669302492011-08-25T22:24:08.060-07:002011-08-25T22:24:08.060-07:00ps...be sure to come by and read today's post....ps...be sure to come by and read today's post. I look forward to your thoughts on it.Cinderitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08956914407883027586noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-44307789670142626332011-08-25T17:40:54.441-07:002011-08-25T17:40:54.441-07:00Seems to me he might just be sorting it all out fo...Seems to me he might just be sorting it all out for himself...and maybe because his dad is his closest male figure and perhaps a role model, maybe that's his way of doing it...and by doing it, I mean sorting it out.Cinderitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08956914407883027586noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-46503803938274133992011-08-25T12:12:47.089-07:002011-08-25T12:12:47.089-07:00I agree with Savage. Unless there is some risk of ...I agree with Savage. Unless there is some risk of contact, for God's sake don't mention it or think about it. It is probably a temporary and fleeting psychological issue. If not, it's something for younger brother to being up with HIS therapist in the future. <br /><br />I do wonder ... is this a cry for (inappropriate) love he feels will be gone if he comes out, or has this kid been "bad-touched"? <br /><br />Ughers indeed.Betty Fokkerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11270950344494895535noreply@blogger.com