tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post3212034718633124241..comments2024-03-21T18:26:23.834-07:00Comments on In Bed With Married Women: Real Sex Lives: "My Wife's Body" by An Anonymous HusbandJill Hamiltonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14989469118118455602noreply@blogger.comBlogger27125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-314929821823925662017-03-08T03:35:40.947-08:002017-03-08T03:35:40.947-08:00Make her know that she’s the one. Focus and be wis...Make her know that she’s the one. Focus and be wise with your eyes and your comments. Your words and actions are powerful, and remember that she is going to filter it all through that voice. When you look at or compliment other women her internal voice will jump all over the opportunity to tell her that she comes up short in your eyes. Don’t give it that opportunity. She is the one and only. Let her know with your words and eyes that her body is your favorite and the most desirable. Ultimate victory is achieved when the aggressive and mean voice is replaced by one that is kind, true, and full of grace.Emma Smithhttp://www.castlemegastore.com/royalrendezvous/how-to-improve-your-sex-life/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-1827361258705275442015-05-24T06:49:18.990-07:002015-05-24T06:49:18.990-07:00I totally get this. I know exactly what he means, ...I totally get this. I know exactly what he means, and why. There are a couple other body parts that I might add, but as far as the appreciation, I get it. <br /><br />Also, I love how a woman's body ages... a fuller belly, a few wrinkles, sexy gray hair. I was a bartender for decades, and knew many women. But I dated a woman in her forties when I was in my thirties, and my life changed. I'm pushing sixty now, and am still appreciative, and aware of how much I love women who know their own selves well enough to be assured that they are wonderful, despite what advertising tells them.<br /><br />You are. Wear it, and live it.prufrocknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-4005471461590212672015-04-11T07:30:45.136-07:002015-04-11T07:30:45.136-07:00Speaking as a husband, he probably does.Speaking as a husband, he probably does.don Robertonoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-29807592805769234212015-03-30T14:31:40.398-07:002015-03-30T14:31:40.398-07:00Dave that is a really great idea. Esp. since we a...Dave that is a really great idea. Esp. since we are fighting such societal BS. For more, see also, Naomi Wolf's The Beauty Myth.<br /><br />http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0060512180?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creativeASIN=0060512180&linkCode=xm2&tag=inbe0c-20in bed with married womenhttp://www.inbedwithmarriedwomen.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-72474023152558094792015-03-30T12:45:51.373-07:002015-03-30T12:45:51.373-07:00I told my wife that it causes me actual physical p...I told my wife that it causes me actual physical pain when she's beating herself up. Also, i like to think i know a beautiful woman when i see one, so when she's telling me how ugly she feels, she's also invalidating my feelings for her.<br /><br />She agreed this selfdestructive behavior needs to stop. Then she had me dress and make her up. She shared that pic on Facebook and attracted so many new admirers, she started seeing herself differently. <br /><br />She's still not in love with her body, but she sees it a bit more honestly now.Davehttp://www.davefancella.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-46749991713198535642014-02-24T15:05:02.592-08:002014-02-24T15:05:02.592-08:00Vanessa, glad it found you today. the ladies love...Vanessa, glad it found you today. the ladies love it xoxoJill Hamiltonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14989469118118455602noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-50870715458717731102014-02-14T13:56:26.608-08:002014-02-14T13:56:26.608-08:00I wound up at this post randomly - it has to be th...I wound up at this post randomly - it has to be the sweetest poetry ever written. <br /><br />I'm fortunate in my current partner - he makes me believe that in his eyes I am beautiful and sexy.Vanessa D.http://www.goingfromheretothere.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-11981221117872262442012-02-14T20:13:36.578-08:002012-02-14T20:13:36.578-08:00Hey doubting Anonymous commenter, I will swear to ...Hey doubting Anonymous commenter, I will swear to the deity of your choice that it was written by a guy. I know the dude and he is indeed a dude. I promise.in bed with married womenhttp://inbedwithmarriedwomen.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-91053624819498477212012-02-14T19:55:39.442-08:002012-02-14T19:55:39.442-08:00Unfortunately, I do not believe this letter is tru...Unfortunately, I do not believe this letter is truly written by a husband thinking about his wife. It seems to me that a woman wrote it thinking about all the women with low self-esteem who don't believe their husbands when they tell them they are beautiful.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-29140304767707608252011-10-22T08:01:04.789-07:002011-10-22T08:01:04.789-07:00Thanks for re-posting. Sadly, women spend far too ...Thanks for re-posting. Sadly, women spend far too much time wishing they looked different. But as his letter pointed out - you'll wish you still had the body you hate today in ten years time - so appreciate it!Vesta Vaynehttp://cowardlyfeminist.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-70593217206955148482011-10-22T04:49:29.185-07:002011-10-22T04:49:29.185-07:00How often does the man tell his wife she's bea...How often does the man tell his wife she's beautiful? Is his response always to her complaint about her looks? If so then she's never going to change her mind about how she looks. Period. Love is - ok so that goes ahead - but darn it if our men want us to feel beautiful they need to cough up some compliments and stop staring at the sweet young things. Men need to realize that we need to know they think we are beautiful - if they don't tell us, we assume otherwise.<br /><br />This always makes my eyes water - brings an ache - all we want is to feel good about ourselves, know that we are enough - - ah well......Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-29169728383724479022011-10-20T18:59:26.993-07:002011-10-20T18:59:26.993-07:00This was great. And, wouldn't it be delightful...This was great. And, <i>wouldn't it be delightful if we could see ourselves through the eyes of those who love us</i>, indeed. As we are -- and through time, what we become. That's as real as it gets, one day at a time.<br /><br />As a counterpoint to the idea of loving someone as they are, the <i>Guardian UK</i> recently had an article about the increase in, uh, "designer Vaginal surgery" in Britain and America, which was both 'good for a laugh', and 'appalling' (<a href="http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2011/oct/14/designer-vagina-surgery" rel="nofollow">read it here</a>): Wrong wrong wrong.Mongo, At The Momenthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00973606827337262084noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-22574833134684067852011-10-20T16:07:09.454-07:002011-10-20T16:07:09.454-07:00Holy shit. I'm sorry for swearing as I very r...Holy shit. I'm sorry for swearing as I very rarely do, but this is the best gosh darn thing I have ever read in my entire life I think. Wow. Beautiful. It's so beautiful I almost wish this wasn't anonymously written and that "wife" knew how much her husband loved her. *sigh* LOVE LOVE LOVE! This is definitely a keeper! Thank you!Cinderitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08956914407883027586noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-49351480860093544742011-10-20T10:23:37.395-07:002011-10-20T10:23:37.395-07:00I have this on the blog in two different places, t...I have this on the blog in two different places, thus two sets of "likes" and comments. Here are some from the other spot:<br /><br />Anonymous said...<br />wow... will you marry me? Not really, but really. I'm not that kind of a woman, but you are the best kind of husband. If your beautiful wife can't come to love her own body, at least I pray she appreciates your loving soul. Keep loving her the way you do.<br />April 15, 2010 3:43 PM <br /><br />Anonymous said...<br />What a wonderful, beautifully written tribute to the woman you so obviously love. What a guy! :)<br />September 15, 2010 6:57 PM <br /><br />Anonymous said...<br />Thank you for writing this, for posting it, for sincerely meaning every word. On some level your wife really must know she has an open invitation to accept herself... I second Anon as previously stated, "What a guy!"<br />October 21, 2010 9:12 AM <br /> <br />Betty Fokker said...<br />This is ... beautiful.<br />March 26, 2011 4:50 PM <br /><br />toni in florida said...<br />What Betty said. Beautiful.<br />March 26, 2011 11:34 PM <br /><br />CkretsGalore said...<br />Well written and lovely!<br /><br />Makes me feel guilty because I'm just as bad. Right now I absolutely loathe looking at myself in the Mirror but my fiancee loves to look at me. I say that because he always opens his eyes to take a peep at me in the wee hours while I'm getting dressed.<br />April 3, 2011 10:29 AMin bed with married womenhttp://inbedwithmarriedwomen.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-84903619591414629602011-10-20T06:55:42.969-07:002011-10-20T06:55:42.969-07:00I wish my husband could speak of me that way. I to...I wish my husband could speak of me that way. I too have a poor body image even though I'm 5'2" and 105 lbs. He never says I have a lovely body or that I'm pretty. I know he loves me - he just does not lust after me. I wish I had that.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-81765473319750199092011-05-04T10:44:45.472-07:002011-05-04T10:44:45.472-07:00I know this is an old post, but just found it. I ...I know this is an old post, but just found it. I think I just fell in love with Anon!! <br /><br />That was absolutely beautiful and exactly how it should be in my opinion between two people. I swear I almost had a tear in the corner of my eye *blush*. <br /><br />Thanks for the moment!Harleyqhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01401751132613430141noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-79613464102545694862011-03-29T07:43:59.128-07:002011-03-29T07:43:59.128-07:00WOOOOW, that was truly beautiful. what a man.WOOOOW, that was truly beautiful. what a man.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-70842918585515286342011-02-08T17:02:20.524-08:002011-02-08T17:02:20.524-08:00Despite the fact that was a damn good, beautiful l...Despite the fact that was a damn good, beautiful letter, I don't think it'll change the wife's perspective. If my own man wrote a letter of the same sentiment, transformed it into a Shakespearean sonnet, and recited it like a 16th century poet, it still wouldn't be enough to raise my self-esteem. I don't know how she would take it, but I take it as a list of sexy euphemisms. Sigh. I guess some women never change (like me).Leilahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04490635107983302531noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-32582502280473826702010-10-07T07:57:18.555-07:002010-10-07T07:57:18.555-07:00How sweet and lovely.How sweet and lovely.LambChophttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15716681106901554416noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-9160954900824647382010-08-24T15:10:08.912-07:002010-08-24T15:10:08.912-07:00i love ur write anon....reminds me of how i feel a...i love ur write anon....reminds me of how i feel about my wife and how much i love her, her mind, her soul and every inch of that awesome, amazing, beautiful body that has being driving me crazy for over 16 years and i hope and pray for a lot more years to apprecaite her and to let her know it! thanks for sharingstanishttp://stanis-thoughtspoetryanything.blogspot.com/2010/06/where-love-has-gone.htmlnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-81314425753471551682010-04-16T22:11:40.474-07:002010-04-16T22:11:40.474-07:00I think this is a good example of the subjective n...I think this is a good example of the subjective nature of what sexiness entails. one person's hot stuff is another's gross-ass porn. part of the fun on this blog is about exploring those boundaries...Jill Hamiltonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14989469118118455602noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-6057211120077462872010-04-16T13:24:49.179-07:002010-04-16T13:24:49.179-07:00everyone will probably beat up on me for this but ...everyone will probably beat up on me for this but i found it a little creepy. the beginning was nice and i was enjoying it but then the really xrated graphic stuff almost seemed like he was writing for himself, not for his wife. a friend sent me the link to this blog and i like it but i thought it would be just for women? what's a dude's porno writing doing on here?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-15861658910101973532010-04-16T07:49:48.677-07:002010-04-16T07:49:48.677-07:00That was wonderful. I have a good body image, but...That was wonderful. I have a good body image, but it was a wonderful read and I think, inspiring, inspiring to know that this man would take the time to do this for his wife and himself.Spikehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13184825553038436615noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-41737059507856029572010-04-15T13:25:02.948-07:002010-04-15T13:25:02.948-07:00Most amazing! To hear this from his perspective. N...Most amazing! To hear this from his perspective. Not fat and pale, but round and beautiful, something to grab onto and hold tight. More men should share this with their women!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4339155460200866959.post-69204101030205363732010-04-15T12:55:14.828-07:002010-04-15T12:55:14.828-07:00Wonderful. We're all so terribly hard on ours...Wonderful. We're all so terribly hard on ourselves; wouldn't it be delightful if we could see ourselves through the eyes of those who love us? In the eternal words of Salt 'n Pepa "What a man, what a man, what a mighty good man."Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com